Sorry for the seriousness of this one. I was watching an episode of Hoarders before I went to bed Monday morning, and it really got me thinking. The episode was about a man who filled his house after the death of his longtime partner. The death happened six years earlier, but it was as fresh for him as if it had happened just last week! He had clearly not taken the time or gotten the help to deal with his grief.
My point is this is something we must do for ourselves. As a personal note, in the coming months, I will lose my dad to cancer. I am dealing fine right now. Will I need counseling after the fact? Who knows? If I do, I will not hesitate to seek that out because I know I will feel much better. As I have mentioned before I suffered severe depression in college. Yes, at times I was suicidal. Luckily I got counseling and began feeling better between that and medication.
Any time I feel I need help, I have always been one to seek it out. If you are someone who tends to hide emotions or pain, I urge you to talk to someone on a professional basis. Just give it a try. You will be able to then deal with the issues, loss, pain, etc in a much healthier way. I know it worked for me.