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Tuesday, 19 August 2014 07:01

5 Relationship Mistakes Women Make

1. Relying on the Silent Treatment
Icing your partner out after a fight can hurt your relationship physically and emotionally, says a study inCommunication Monographs. If it sounds familiar, you’re definitely not alone: Researchers cite this “demand-withdraw” pattern as the most common way conflict plays out in committed relationships. Routinely giving the cold shoulder makes you both less satisfied overall and obviously makes it practically impossible to communicate with each other. It’s like plugging a volcano that’s about to explode—it’ll only make it worse in the end. Instead of turning your silence into a weapon, try taking an agreed-upon time-out from each other and talking after you’ve both calmed down.

2. Rolling Your Eyes
Obviously it’s one thing if he makes an over-the-top corny joke just to get your “come onnnnn” reaction. But if you find yourself reacting to a lot of what he does or says by sending your eyes skyward, it’s worth squashing the impulse. It can actually come across as contemptuous and send your guy subtle signals that you don’t respect him, especially if he’s expressing how he feels during a fight. Cutting it out cold turkey takes some practice, so lady up and apologize if you catch yourself doing it at a sensitive time.

3. Saying “Always” and “Never”
Unless it’s “you always make me orgasm” and “I never want to break up with you,” speaking in absolutes can automatically make him feel defensive, even if what you’re saying is valid. Let’s say he goes MIA any time he’s with his boys. Before saying “you always ignore me when you’re out!” go for “I feel like it’s hard to get your attention when you’re hanging out with friends, even if it’s something important.” Using “I” statements shows you’re not trying to blame him, just explain how his actions affect you. He’ll be more likely to want to find a solution if he doesn’t feel like you’re making unfair accusations.

4. Making Fun of Him in Front of His Friends and Family
When it comes to poking fun in a cute way, absolutely go for it. But there’s a difference between innocent jokes and zingers that could land him in the burn unit. When he’s with you and people who are important to him, he’s especially concerned with how he—and your relationship—come across. Each guy has a different threshold for this, so just keep his comfort in mind even when trying to win over the people he loves.

5. Saying You’re Fine When You’re So, So Not
Such a classic. You’re pissed and don’t want to let it go, but for whatever reason you don’t feel comfortable voicing exactly why. It’s understandable, but not quite fair. One way I’ve squashed this is by implementing this rule: I don’t get to be annoyed about something unless I explain why. If I refuse to talk about it, that means no grudge-holding. It’s pushed me to express my feelings when there’s something I really need to talk about and let go of things that aren’t big enough to matter.

Source: http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2014/08/bad-relationship-habits-girlfriends

1. They are able to release the past without allowing it to define their current relationship.

Breakups happen. And sometimes they suck. But the most important thing is to realize they don't have to define you and your relationships going forward. People who are great at relationships have been able to wish their past lover well and move on. When things come up in their new relationship, they are conscious that this person is not the same as their ex, and they treat the situation fairly without placing past blame onto it.

2. They understand the balance of give and take.

They know that any solid relationship has an equal balance of give and take. For a long time, I had trouble giving much of myself. I expected to receive from my partner, but thought that if I gave too much, I'd get exploited or hurt. My husband now, on the other hand, was the opposite. In his past relationships he did nothing but give, hoping to win over love and not feeling worthy of receiving. Maybe this is why we were drawn towards one another, but are conscious of this challenge and make an effort to have give and take.

3. They know when they need some space.

Some people disappear when they enter into their relationship. I'm sure you know a person like this or maybe you've been there yourself. They enter a relationship and stop hanging out with friends, family or doing things they love. I've been there. But here's the thing, a healthy relationship requires space between the togetherness. It's OK to do something by yourself to recharge your batteries. Just make sure you give your partner the same freedom.

4. They learn how to communicate authentically.

Authentic communication is a skill that needs to be practiced, over and over again. It may not come easily to people who never felt heard as a child or are afraid to speak up for themselves and say how they really feel. The key to authentic communication is creating a safe, loving environment within your relationship where you can both feel heard. Saying what you need to say can be scary, but not nearly as scary as bottling everything up.

5. They discover their partner's love language and use it regularly.

Have you read the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman? I highly recommend it for anyone who wants to improve their relationships. Basically, he argues that there are five primary love languages: Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Acts of Service and Gift Giving. When you understand your primary language and that of your partner, you can make sure you're both getting your needs met.

Thursday, 31 July 2014 07:56

Humble Bosses are the Best Bosses

Bosses who yell, micromanage and threaten their way to the top, often at the expense of miserable underlings are all too common in today's workplaces.

But the Tony Sopranos and Darth Vaders of popular culture are not the most effective CEOs in the real world, according to a new study from the W.P. Carey School of Business at Arizona State University.

The best bosses are humble bosses, those who empower and appreciate their employees, are open to feedback and care about the greater good, according to the research published in Administrative Science Quarterly.

"Humility is not weakness," Angelo Kinicki, a professor of W.P. Carey School of Business at Arizona State University, said Tuesday during a phone interview.

"Humility has its effects across levels of an organization in an empowered, uplifting way. You can't browbeat people into performance."

The research comes from Kinicki, Anne Tsui and David Waldman of the W.P Carey School, Amy Ou of the National University of Singapore, Zhixing Xiao of George Washington University, and Lynda Jiwen Song of the Renmin University of China.

They interviewed the CEOs of 63 private companies in China and about 1,000 of the managers who work with them.

What they found is that humble bosses are strong bosses.

Traditionally, bombastic, self-assured, egocentric people are often thought to be the best leaders, Kinicki said.

"There's a stereotype that humble people are weak people, and I've never agreed with that," Kinicki said.

"Humble people are quieter, more in the background, but they lead in a different way, by empowering their employees, which trickles down," Kinicki said.

 

He said the qualities of a humble boss include:

• Self awareness.

•.Openness to feedback.

• Appreciation of others.

• Low self-focus.

• Appreciation of the greater good.

The qualities of CEOs with less humility include:

• More self-focus.

• Concern over their self gain, as opposed to helping the team.

• More controlling.

• Unilateral decision making.

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Thursday, 31 July 2014 07:50

10 Traits of a Happy Marriage

1. They don't care who makes more money

2. They share at least one hobby

3. They're cool with spending time apart

4. They figure out the best ways to split up chores

5. They have sex, even if they aren't raring to go

6. They touch each other every day

7. They have a video game strategy

8. They respect one another's fighting styles

9. They want to be healthy

10. They forego or limit their social media

 

 

 

 

 

Source and complete article here

Tuesday, 29 July 2014 09:24

WQMX Concert Quick Reference

 

Reference list of WQMX Country Concerts 2014

The Band Perry July 31st@ Medina County Fair

 Rascal Flatts August 1 @ Blossom

 Luke BryanAugust 21 @ Blossom

 Luke Bryan August 22@ Blossom

 Jo Dee Messina August 29 @ Rocksino

Thompson Square Sept 5 @ Rocksino

 Scotty McCreary Sept 8th @ Wayne County Fair

Chris Cagle Sept 9th @ Wayne County Fair

Dierks BentleySeptember 26 @ Blossom

Eric Church October 10 @ The Q

Frankie Ballard Oct 30th House of Blues

David Nail November 13th @ House of Blues

Jerrod Neimann November 14 @ House of Blues

Kip Moore November 29th @ Palace Playhouse Square

 

 

 

 

Tuesday, 22 July 2014 06:57

10 Foods Skinny People Eat

According to Redbook, here are some foods that skinny people eat every day

Chocolate – A study found that people who eat chocolate regularly are actually slimmer than people who didn’t enjoy it as often. This is because depriving yourself of something you enjoy causes you to overeat later.

Almond butter – It’s high-protein, high-fiber, and contains “healthy” fat.

Cottage cheese – It’s the most filling type of cheese out there and has lots of protein and calcium.

Avocados – Avocados actually suppress appetite because they take up to six hours to fully digest.

Pickles – They’re great for snacking on because they’re crunchy and salty … but have very few calories.

Water – It’s a no-brainer, but water fills you up so that you eat less. And drinking it cold may even help speed up your resting metabolism.

Other foods: artichokes, rasberries and spinach

Complete article: http://www.redbookmag.com/health-wellness/advice/what-skinny-people-eat?click=pp#slide-1

Source: http://www.redbookmag.com/health-wellness/advice/what-skinny-people-eat?click=pp#slide-1

Monday, 21 July 2014 08:03

Potential Poisons To Your Happiness

We found this great article on one of our favorite sites: Lifehack.

We have all, at one point or another, poisoned our own happiness, whether it be through worry, fear, or just poor decision making. Life can certainly throw a person into a tailspin but the real culprit isn’t the adversity, it’s how we perceive and respond to the adversity that determines the outcome. Sometimes it is simply a matter of wrong motives in life that can lead us down the venomous path, rather than the path that leads to the antidote. Here are some highlights and you can find the whole article here: http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/20-poisons-your-happiness.html

1. Jealousy 

2. Need for "Stuff"

3. Holding a grudge

4. Regrets

5.  Need to fix other people

6. Fear

7. Unreasonable expectations of others.

8. Self-righteous attitude 

9. Living in the past

10. Pessimism

11. Prejudice

12. Stress

 

 

Monday, 21 July 2014 06:28

Safety Jewelry for Women...and Men

There are a ton of apps designed to keep women safe these days.  They mostly rely on tracking software and easy-to-push alarm buttons that let your friends and family know you're in danger.  But why just women? Men and women can be victims. Here are some wearable gadgets to keep women... and men  safe.

Some of the wearable items include:

  • The Safelet – A bracelet with alarms you can push if you're in trouble.
     
  • First sign – A hair clip that detects head impacts which suggest physical assault. It activates a microphone that records the incident while the wearer's phone calls police.
     
  • Cuff and Artemis – These two companies create jewelry that connects via bluetooth to your smartphone.
     
  • Bembu - A wearable piece that looks like a FitBit that can send for help in case of an emergency. (Jezebel)

Estately set out with the simple mission—to determine which U.S. states have a lifestyle most similar to the themes in country music songs. To do this, we researched where people are most likely to drive pickups down dirt roads, have their heart broken by a cowboy or cowgirl, or sip cold beers or whiskey by the river after a long day of work. Here’s the criteria we used to find our results…

  1. Pickup Trucks:  Pickup truck sales for January-April 2014. (Source: Auto experts at Edmunds.com provided analysis of Polk registrations (January-April 2014), which measures all large truck vehicles registered to a retail buyer (excluding fleet sales).
  2. Drinkin’:  Per capita beer and liquor consumption (source: National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism).
  3. Baby Done Left:  Percentage of men and women who are divorced or separated (source: U.S. Census).
  4. Most religious:  Percentage of population that says religion is an important part of their daily life (source:Gallup Poll).
  5. Cowboys and Cowgirls:  Since there’s no cowboy directory we simply measured the number of cattle and calves per square mile (source: CattleRange.com).
  6. Hall of Fame Country Musicians:  Number of country musicians in the Country Music Hall of Fame who were born in each state (source: Country Music Hall of Fame and Museum).
  7. Dirt Roads:  Miles of unpaved roads managed by the Federal Highway Administration (source: Federal Highway Administration). Does not include private roads or Forest Service/BLM roads.
  8. Supports the Troops:  Active military personnel in each state (source: Census.gov).
  9. Works Until the Day Is Through:  Ranked from lowest unemployment rate to highest (source: Bureau of Labor Statistics).

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Profiles of Each State:

ALABAMA (10th):  Sweet home Alabama is the second most religious state, but that doesn’t mean it’s honoring its wedding vows (6th highest divorce rate).

ALASKA (31st):  If you replace dirt roads with ice roads, and cowboys with commercial fishers, Alaska’s ranking probably comes out a lot higher.

ARIZONA (33rd):  Arizona’s country singers probably write more songs about a woman leaving her man after the air conditioner broke than any other.

ARKANSAS (5th):  The state of Arkansas might have come in first if it didn’t fill its red Solo cups primarily with non-alcoholic grape juice (50th for boozing).

CALIFORNIA (42nd):  You’re far more likely to spot a celebrity in California than to see a pickup truck with a cooler of beer in the back (48th for pickup sales and 42nd for beer/liquor purchases).

COLORADO (27th):  High on the mountain top, the rest of the world’s just a little bitty spot, so perhaps altitude is the reason Colorado has nobody in the Country Music Hall of Fame.

CONNECTICUT (50th):  Connecticut’s ideal form of country music would be Carly Rae Jepsen performing her one hit over and over while wearing Daisy Duke’s.

DELAWARE (41st): The state may be 3rd for beer and liquor purchases, but all that boozing has so far failed to inspire any iconic country music drinking songs.

DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA (46th):  Pickup trucks are none too popular with the fine lobbyists who reside in our nation’s capital (51st in pickup truck sales).

FLORIDA (21st):  For every jacked up truck in Florida driven by someone with cut-off sleeves there’s a retired investment banker strolling through town in yellow thong that really hurts the state’s ranking here.

GEORGIA (24th-tie):  Do not rock the jukebox in Georgia. This is Alan Jackson country.

HAWAII (45th):  If by “country music” you mean “Taylor Swift,” then yes, Hawaiians do love country music.

IDAHO (29th):  All of Idaho’s rowdy friends are living the country life in Montana and Wyoming.

ILLINOIS (35th):  Man, if you want to meet a bunch of people who know all the words to Sheryl Crow’s “All I Wanna Do Is Have Some Fun” then you need to go to Illinois.

INDIANA (26th):  Southern Indiana is resenting the northern part of the state even more for this low ranking.

IOWA (17th):  The state is thick with cowboys and cowgirls (3rd), and has miles of dirt roads (5th), but that setting hasn’t put any locals in the Country Music Hall of Fame. Those corn maizes make it too hard for locals to find their way to Nashville!

KANSAS (6th) Chillin’ on a dirt road is always an option in Kansas since it’s got the most miles of dirt road per square mile of any state in America.

KENTUCKY (8th):  The odds of you being an unemployed cowboy whose wife just walked out are very high in Kentucky.

LOUISIANA (4th):  When you’re sad and lonely and got no place to go you can always go honkey tonkin’ in Louisiana. Always.

MAINE (38th):  Mamas in Maine don’t have to worry about their babies growing up to be cowboys because the state is largely devoid of any cows (49th in beef production). However, all hope is not lost as country music is still waiting for songs about the hard lives of America’s lonesome blueberry farmers.

MARYLAND (37th):  In Maryland, most locals still believe Dolly Parton was one of the actresses on the TV showTrading Places.

MASSACHUSETTS (48th):  The only country band anyone will admit listening to in Massachusetts is the Dixie Chicks.

MINNESOTA (23rd):  Someday the artist formerly known as Prince, and now once again known as Prince, is going to make an awesome country album and nobody will question Minnesota’s surprisingly high 23rd place ranking.

MICHIGAN (34th):  Big belt buckles are commonly stolen in Michigan.

MISSISSIPPI (16th):  Mississippi is the most religious state in America, but it’s also the state where someone is most likely to sell their soul to the devil at a crossroads in exchange for music success.

MISSOURI (3rd): It’s fifth for cowboys/cowgirls and it’s got the sixth most performers in the Country Music Hall of Fame.

MONTANA (15th):  Many a cooler of beer can be found in back of a pickup, but few of those pickup trucks are found in church parking lots.

NEBRASKA (11th):  In Nebraska, baby’s got her blue jeans on because she works on a ranch (first for cowboys and cowgirls).

NEVADA (39th):  Nevada is fifth for beer and liquor consumption, and it’s first for divorce. Perhaps if Nevada was more familiar with the works of Loretta Lynn they wouldn’t come home a drinkin’ with lovin’ on its mind.

NEW HAMPSHIRE (44th):  Someday, Toby Keith is going to cause a riot in New Hampshire when he sings about giving beer to his horses. Beer is sacred in New Hampshire, and certainly not something given to livestock.

NEW JERSEY (51st—last place):  Eventually, when the whole world’s gone country, New Jersey will still be playing that one cassette tape filled with Paula Abdul songs recorded off a Top 40 radio station.

NEW MEXICO (19th):  The odds of your husband driving off in your pickup truck and never returning are quite high in New Mexico (16th for pickup sales and 9th for divorce).

NEW YORK (47th):  You won’t hear much country outside of rural New York, unless you’re in a Brooklyn bar filled with hipsters ironically singing it at karaoke.

NORTH CAROLINA (22nd): North Carolina’s residents could dramatically increase their state’s ranking on this list by trading in their sedan for a pickup, and then filing for divorce.

NORTH DAKOTA (7th):  The average day in a North Dakota person’s life involves driving the pickup (1st for sales) along dirt roads to the oil fields, working all day (1st for employment), drinking all night (1st for beer/liquor consumption), and then waking up alone because he/she never got married.

OHIO (24th-Tie):  Ohio is home to the ninth most members of the Country Music Hall of Fame, and a good number of coal miners’ daughters.

OKLAHOMA (1st place): Even though they don’t drink much beer and liquor in the land of Garth Brooks, the state is still in the top fourteen in all other categories, which makes it the number one state on this list.

OREGON (40th):  Loretta Lynn may drink sloe gin fizz by the bucket in Portland, but that’s about as country as that state gets.

PENNSYLVANIA (32nd):  Wow, it’s hard to believe that Eagles fans would would allow Pennsylvania to be home to so many cowboys (12th most).

RHODE ISLAND (49th):  Is the rumor true that the only country station in Rhode Island just plays an old Hootie & the Blowfish album on repeat 24/7?

SOUTH CAROLINA (13th):  How come nobody in South Carolina has written a country song about the roof on the mobile home collapsing under the weight of the DIRECTV satelite dish?

SOUTH DAKOTA (9th): Carpooling to work is a challenge in a state where everyone owns a pickup truck (fourth most).

TENNESSEE (12th):  Tennessee coming in 12th place was the most surprising finding on this list. Despite being a center for country music and home to the most residents in Country Music Hall of Fame, the Volunteer State came up in short in a number of other key categories.

TEXAS (2nd):  Texas was country before country was cool, including back when Texas was its own country.

UTAH (43rd): Folks in Utah mate for life (50th in divorce rate), so there’s little heartbreak to croon about. Could be one factor in why it’s in last place for local residents in the Country Music Hall of Fame, and probably partly responsible for the lowest rate of alcohol intake.

VERMONT (27th):  The maple syrup life ain’t a good life, but it’s Vermont’s life.

VIRGINIA (20th):  Virginia is home to the third most members of the Country Music Hall of Fame, but locals probably toast to this accomplishment with sweet tea (49th for beer and liquor consumption).

WASHINGTON (36th):  Willie Nelson music career began by singing about loggers in Washington state, but it has yet to inspire the Evergreen State to go country. However, 100.7 The Wolf is working on it.

WEST VIRGINIA (18th):  Some say when West Virginians talk about having friends in low places they’re talking about having friends in Ohio.

WISCONSIN (28th):  Wisconsin isn’t known for its country scene, perhaps because it inspires lyrics like this,“Somebody will buy another round / and with every drinks are free / what made Milwaukee famous / has made a fool out of me.”

WYOMING (14th):  In Wyoming, an alleged 30% of all marriages start in traffic jams because there’s just something women like about a pickup man (2nd for pickup sales).

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