1. Relying on the Silent Treatment
Icing your partner out after a fight can hurt your relationship physically and emotionally, says a study inCommunication Monographs. If it sounds familiar, you’re definitely not alone: Researchers cite this “demand-withdraw” pattern as the most common way conflict plays out in committed relationships. Routinely giving the cold shoulder makes you both less satisfied overall and obviously makes it practically impossible to communicate with each other. It’s like plugging a volcano that’s about to explode—it’ll only make it worse in the end. Instead of turning your silence into a weapon, try taking an agreed-upon time-out from each other and talking after you’ve both calmed down.

2. Rolling Your Eyes
Obviously it’s one thing if he makes an over-the-top corny joke just to get your “come onnnnn” reaction. But if you find yourself reacting to a lot of what he does or says by sending your eyes skyward, it’s worth squashing the impulse. It can actually come across as contemptuous and send your guy subtle signals that you don’t respect him, especially if he’s expressing how he feels during a fight. Cutting it out cold turkey takes some practice, so lady up and apologize if you catch yourself doing it at a sensitive time.

3. Saying “Always” and “Never”
Unless it’s “you always make me orgasm” and “I never want to break up with you,” speaking in absolutes can automatically make him feel defensive, even if what you’re saying is valid. Let’s say he goes MIA any time he’s with his boys. Before saying “you always ignore me when you’re out!” go for “I feel like it’s hard to get your attention when you’re hanging out with friends, even if it’s something important.” Using “I” statements shows you’re not trying to blame him, just explain how his actions affect you. He’ll be more likely to want to find a solution if he doesn’t feel like you’re making unfair accusations.

4. Making Fun of Him in Front of His Friends and Family
When it comes to poking fun in a cute way, absolutely go for it. But there’s a difference between innocent jokes and zingers that could land him in the burn unit. When he’s with you and people who are important to him, he’s especially concerned with how he—and your relationship—come across. Each guy has a different threshold for this, so just keep his comfort in mind even when trying to win over the people he loves.

5. Saying You’re Fine When You’re So, So Not
Such a classic. You’re pissed and don’t want to let it go, but for whatever reason you don’t feel comfortable voicing exactly why. It’s understandable, but not quite fair. One way I’ve squashed this is by implementing this rule: I don’t get to be annoyed about something unless I explain why. If I refuse to talk about it, that means no grudge-holding. It’s pushed me to express my feelings when there’s something I really need to talk about and let go of things that aren’t big enough to matter.

Source: http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2014/08/bad-relationship-habits-girlfriends

1. They are able to release the past without allowing it to define their current relationship.

Breakups happen. And sometimes they suck. But the most important thing is to realize they don't have to define you and your relationships going forward. People who are great at relationships have been able to wish their past lover well and move on. When things come up in their new relationship, they are conscious that this person is not the same as their ex, and they treat the situation fairly without placing past blame onto it.

2. They understand the balance of give and take.

They know that any solid relationship has an equal balance of give and take. For a long time, I had trouble giving much of myself. I expected to receive from my partner, but thought that if I gave too much, I'd get exploited or hurt. My husband now, on the other hand, was the opposite. In his past relationships he did nothing but give, hoping to win over love and not feeling worthy of receiving. Maybe this is why we were drawn towards one another, but are conscious of this challenge and make an effort to have give and take.

3. They know when they need some space.

Some people disappear when they enter into their relationship. I'm sure you know a person like this or maybe you've been there yourself. They enter a relationship and stop hanging out with friends, family or doing things they love. I've been there. But here's the thing, a healthy relationship requires space between the togetherness. It's OK to do something by yourself to recharge your batteries. Just make sure you give your partner the same freedom.

4. They learn how to communicate authentically.

Authentic communication is a skill that needs to be practiced, over and over again. It may not come easily to people who never felt heard as a child or are afraid to speak up for themselves and say how they really feel. The key to authentic communication is creating a safe, loving environment within your relationship where you can both feel heard. Saying what you need to say can be scary, but not nearly as scary as bottling everything up.

5. They discover their partner's love language and use it regularly.

Have you read the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman? I highly recommend it for anyone who wants to improve their relationships. Basically, he argues that there are five primary love languages: Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Acts of Service and Gift Giving. When you understand your primary language and that of your partner, you can make sure you're both getting your needs met.

Bosses who yell, micromanage and threaten their way to the top, often at the expense of miserable underlings are all too common in today's workplaces.

But the Tony Sopranos and Darth Vaders of popular culture are not the most effective CEOs in the real world, according to a new study from the W.P. Carey School of Business at Arizona State University.

The best bosses are humble bosses, those who empower and appreciate their employees, are open to feedback and care about the greater good, according to the research published in Administrative Science Quarterly.

"Humility is not weakness," Angelo Kinicki, a professor of W.P. Carey School of Business at Arizona State University, said Tuesday during a phone interview.

"Humility has its effects across levels of an organization in an empowered, uplifting way. You can't browbeat people into performance."

The research comes from Kinicki, Anne Tsui and David Waldman of the W.P Carey School, Amy Ou of the National University of Singapore, Zhixing Xiao of George Washington University, and Lynda Jiwen Song of the Renmin University of China.

They interviewed the CEOs of 63 private companies in China and about 1,000 of the managers who work with them.

What they found is that humble bosses are strong bosses.

Traditionally, bombastic, self-assured, egocentric people are often thought to be the best leaders, Kinicki said.

"There's a stereotype that humble people are weak people, and I've never agreed with that," Kinicki said.

"Humble people are quieter, more in the background, but they lead in a different way, by empowering their employees, which trickles down," Kinicki said.

He said the qualities of a humble boss include:

• Self awareness.

•.Openness to feedback.

• Appreciation of others.

• Low self-focus.

• Appreciation of the greater good.

The qualities of CEOs with less humility include:

• More self-focus.

• Concern over their self gain, as opposed to helping the team.

• More controlling.

• Unilateral decision making.

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1. They don't care who makes more money

2. They share at least one hobby

3. They're cool with spending time apart

4. They figure out the best ways to split up chores

5. They have sex, even if they aren't raring to go

6. They touch each other every day

7. They have a video game strategy

8. They respect one another's fighting styles

9. They want to be healthy

10. They forego or limit their social media

Source and complete article here

According to Redbook, here are some foods that skinny people eat every day

Chocolate – A study found that people who eat chocolate regularly are actually slimmer than people who didn’t enjoy it as often. This is because depriving yourself of something you enjoy causes you to overeat later.

Almond butter – It’s high-protein, high-fiber, and contains “healthy” fat.

Cottage cheese – It’s the most filling type of cheese out there and has lots of protein and calcium.

Avocados – Avocados actually suppress appetite because they take up to six hours to fully digest.

Pickles – They’re great for snacking on because they’re crunchy and salty … but have very few calories.

Water – It’s a no-brainer, but water fills you up so that you eat less. And drinking it cold may even help speed up your resting metabolism.

Other foods: artichokes, rasberries and spinach

Complete article: http://www.redbookmag.com/health-wellness/advice/what-skinny-people-eat?click=pp#slide-1

Source: http://www.redbookmag.com/health-wellness/advice/what-skinny-people-eat?click=pp#slide-1

We found this great article on one of our favorite sites: Lifehack.

We have all, at one point or another, poisoned our own happiness, whether it be through worry, fear, or just poor decision making. Life can certainly throw a person into a tailspin but the real culprit isn’t the adversity, it’s how we perceive and respond to the adversity that determines the outcome. Sometimes it is simply a matter of wrong motives in life that can lead us down the venomous path, rather than the path that leads to the antidote. Here are some highlights and you can find the whole article here: http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/20-poisons-your-happiness.html

1. Jealousy 

2. Need for "Stuff"

3. Holding a grudge

4. Regrets

5.  Need to fix other people

6. Fear

7. Unreasonable expectations of others.

8. Self-righteous attitude 

9. Living in the past

10. Pessimism

11. Prejudice

12. Stress

There are a ton of apps designed to keep women safe these days.  They mostly rely on tracking software and easy-to-push alarm buttons that let your friends and family know you're in danger.  But why just women? Men and women can be victims. Here are some wearable gadgets to keep women... and men  safe.

Some of the wearable items include:

• The Safelet – A bracelet with alarms you can push if you're in trouble.
   
• First sign – A hair clip that detects head impacts which suggest physical assault. It activates a microphone that records the incident while the wearer's phone calls police.
   
• Cuff and Artemis – These two companies create jewelry that connects via bluetooth to your smartphone.
   
• Bembu - A wearable piece that looks like a FitBit that can send for help in case of an emergency. (Jezebel)

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